Did you know the cry it out method is not the only option for sleep training?
I often get asked about alternative methods to the cry it out method so today I want to outline the main “sleep training” methods as options for families to use with babies 4 months and up!
One method is not necessarily better than another, all have been found to be quite effective. How you approach your child’s sleep really comes down to what feels RIGHT for you and your family!
What is sleep training?
Sleep training is simply the process in which a baby learns to fall asleep and return to sleep independently without parental intervention and external support.
Does sleep training work?
With a proper plan, consistency in implementing it and consistency in your response, YES. Supporting your child to learn to settle independently can truly be a game changer for so many families.
Does sleep training mean night weaning?
No! You can absolutely have an independent sleeper who falls asleep independently AND requires a night feed or two. If your baby requires feeds over night, we do not want to be compromising that nutrition. If you decide to work with a sleep consultant, they will be able to guide you through this process.
Sleep Training Methods:
1) Cry it out method: After the bedtime routine, you would put your baby into their sleep space, say goodnight and leave. I often encourage families (if they choose this method) to always return and check on your child once they are asleep. For some families the cry it out method works well and while research has shown no adverse effects on attachment and behavioural development, many families are not comfortable with this approach and that is 100% okay because there are alternatives!
2) Leave and check method: This is similar to the Ferber method sleep training. After the bedtime routine, you put your baby into their sleep space, say goodnight and leaven for an interval of time before going back to check on them. The interval of time can either increase through the evening/days or you can use a set time and stick to it. For example, you wait 3 minutes then go reassure your baby before leaving again for 5 minutes…etc.
3) Stay in the room method: Also known as the Chair Method of Sleep Training. This process involves you putting your baby into their sleep space after the bedtime routine and staying with them through the development of the independent sleep skills. Gradually, you reduce the amount of intervention you provide to give your child more of an opportunity to master the skill of falling asleep.
4) Pick Up Put Down Method: This method is often talked about but I would not qualify it as a sleep training method. It is most effective when sleep shaping in the newborn phase. Although it can be a beneficial tool to use when sleep training and can work for some older babies, most babies above 4 months will find it too stimulating. Many families (of babies over 4 months) are left feeling like they “back track” every time they put their baby back down, making it challenging for them and their baby.
When choosing a method, again, go with your comfort. Also, choose a response/ support that best aligns with the temperament and personality of your little one!
Some babies will learn to fall asleep and return to sleep independently without any formal “sleep training” or “sleep shaping” while others will require some support! Sleep training isn’t for all families and that is OKAY. I firmly believe that if what you are doing works for your family, then there is no need to change it!
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